Laura W. Godfrey

Hi!

It’s been a hot minute since I’ve been able to actually sit down at my computer and type things. My built in desk/blogging command center is being installed this week (can I get an amen?) which means I’ll be done with the kitchen table situation I’ve been working with for the past few years. 

Yes, I said years.

Why it’s taken me so long to get my act together is a mystery. Anywho, I can’t wait to share how we transformed a wall in the awkward area in our den to my work space.

On top of the craziness with the installation, we have also had a few extra little sweet peas hanging around this week. My sister and her husband are on a trip in Cancuun so weeeeeeee got to keep my 4 year old and 13 year old nieces. We are having so much fun. I don’t want to give them back today!

When the little ones are awake, we’ve been all dress up parties and Peppa Pig. When they go to sleep, me and my older niece, Bree, are eating lots of ice cream, watching lots of  Netflix, and doing lots and LOTS of talking. Sweet Matt. He handles estrogen overload like a CHAMP.

Ok! Let’s talk about the lengthy short (ironic?) trend. I say “trend” but it’s really been around for a while. What I love most about these shorts is that they add an unexpected twist to your look. Here I paired them with a t shirt, blazer, and heels for church…. but I also wore them with flats and a v neck to dinner the other night. Tonight I took Bree to coffee and threw these on with my converse and bathing suit cover left over from the pool this afternoon.

Any item that can be dressed up or down is what we call a “transitional piece” and they breathe life into your closet.

The key to rocking this look is to remember to size up. A tight fit is a no go for the knee length short. You want them to be a little on the loose side because if not you ended up looking like I did when I was in 8th grade and my Pastor dad was a heavy enforcer of the “finger tip plus a few inches for good measure” rule. God bless you, daddy. You wanted to keep the boys away and you DID. The loose fit will give that effortless relaxed and comfortable feel.

Thank you so much for stopping by today! Today is a good day for a good day! So have one!

Love,

Laura

Hey y’all! I decided to start this new section on my blog because I love sharing funny stories but due to my attention to detail and long winded nature, it just wasn’t gonna fit in an Instagram caption.

Im just pretending we are sitting at Starbucks sipping a strawberry refresher with coconut milk like the basics we are and I  must tell you what happened to me last night.

So im at the Selena Gomez concert. My sister in law scored uhhhhh-mazing “seats” right in front of the stage. Only problem is that they weren’t seats. So we stood the Entire. Time.

No, I didn’t wear the right shoes. #ouch

In between the opening act and Selena’s part, we were all just kind of standing around while they flipped the stage. I was mostly focusing on the pain in my feet and wondering if I could have brought a lawn chair in, when my sister in law was asked by a group of three sweet girls to take their picture. We kind of struck up a convo and found out the girls all worked for a boutique. One of the girls was the owner. So cool. So I told them I’m a style blogger (ish) and said if they ever wanted to collab, we totally should. They loved the idea and then one of the girls says “wait! Do you have two cute little girls?! I just followed you on Instagram! I love you.”

Ok. Side note: Any time I get a follower on Instagram I sincerely want to be like THANK YOU I LOVE YOU. HUG ME?  So to meet someone in person that already knew me from the Internet made me feel like a million bucks.

If that weren’t enough, while we chatted with the girls, this sweet boy that I  had been accidentally bumping into all  night (#pitseats) said “oh my gosh. My sister follows you on insta and looooves you. Can I take a selfie with you to send to her?” He then proceeds to show me the text from his sis where he had her screen shot of my latest Instagram pic. So after taking a selfie with Him, I’m like……

This is how the other half lives! Selena, I get it girl. I get it.

Gosh. FAME. It just happens so fast.

The selfie taking drew some attention and the mob of 15 year old girls in front of us  started staring at me trying to find out if I was famous I suppose. One girl totally nonchalant had her phone out and says in a lazy and uninterested tone  “Hey. Are you famous on Instagram?” I was like “oh hahaha. No.” But still soaring from my recent recognition and comvinced that she TOO probably wanted to take a selfie with me,  I followed it up with “but you can still follow me if you want!” I didn’t even get to finish giving my Instagram handle before little miss uninterested had already looked away and put her phone down. Ohhhhhhh k.

Welcome back to earth, Laura. Welcome back.

So I had my 15 minutes of fame, which was actually more like 5. But whatevs. It was still a fun night from the high to the crash and burn. And Selena? She slayyyyyyyyyyyyed. So good.

Happy Friday, friends!!

Laura

Hi, friends!

Thanks for stopping by! I hope this Monday is being nice to you.

I’m really loving the pixie pants from Old Navy right now. Anything that works for Spring/Summer and can still stick around for the Fall is a win in my book. These gingham pants are on clearance but they’re coming out with tons of new patterns for these peplum tops so I imagine we will be seeing loooooots more of these to come. I’m not mad about it. The $15 dollar price tag is also something to not be mad about.

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You know the age old saying, “you are what you eat”? I don’t necessarily think that’s true because if it were, I’d be a bowl of mixed berries. Can’t seem to get enough of those these days. #pregnancycravings #exceptnot

But even if you aren’t what you eat, you are what you think. Your thought life will literally determine the way you view your circumstances, others, and yourself. So disciplining your thoughts then becomes one of the most important things you can do.

We spend hours in the gym (ok, I don’t but maybe you do?). We read labels before buying certain foods and household products. We even carry tiny bottles of germ killers and lather up every time a threat to our well being arrives (looking at you, public bathrooms).

Yet, for so many of us, thinking “happy thoughts” is a ridiculous notion that’s cute for Disney movies but not applicable in real life. Seems much more viable to allow negative thoughts to wreak havoc on our thought life and just assume that it’s normal. Riiiiiiiiight.

Well, it’s not normal.

Here are a few ways I’ve been practicing whipping those joy-killing thoughts into shape:

1. Discipline your disappointments: It doesn’t take long for me to jump to conclusions, and if you even try to tell me not to get my hopes up… LOL. TOO LATE. The highs are fun but when I hit those lows, I really let myself sink. SO instead of showing up to the pity party, I shut it down. By literally just deciding to revert my thoughts to something else, I don’t give the disappointment the freedom to de-rail me.

2. Stop the Spiral: After giving birth to Rowen, I had three months to fit into a bridesmaids dress for my sisters wedding. Pressure was ON. I was nursing exclusively so I had to be so careful about everything I did. I tried my dress on when it arrived and the dang thing wouldn’t zip. Keep in mind, I still had months before it had to zip. But I allowed myself to spiral. First I was disappointed about the dress, but then like a toxic ooz, the disappointment starting seeping into other areas of my mind. “Not only am I too fat for my dress to fit but I’m pretty sure my marriage stinks, my kids are annoying, my house is ugly, and I have nothing to wear to the rehearsal dinner (in three months)”. It happens fast. But stopping the spiral needs to happen faster. It’s like you come up with two choices as soon as the reality of negativity hits: You can focus on the negative. OR you can focus on the positive. It really is that easy. Like a muscle, it starts out weak and then the more you use it, it starts to get stronger.

3. Protect against Patterns: Sometimes you just can’t help running into negativity, but where you can help it, DO. For instance, I noticed that every time I weighed myself, I would either be happy because I met a goal or sad because I didn’t. I realized after weeks of taking my frustration out on whoever ended up in my post-scale encounter wake that it just wasn’t worth it. Sometimes, when possible, just remove the trigger. Case and point, I stopped weighing myself. As long my clothes fit, I was reaching goals. So it really didn’t matter what the scale said anyway. If you can remove whatever is triggering your negativity, always do that first. If there’s a few people you follow on social media that make you feel bad about yourself in one way or another, UNFOLLOW. Even for a time. It’s ok. You can always follow back. Taking the time to really learn what triggers negativity in your mind is vital to having a happy thought life. Really start trying to notice what is causing you to develop patterns of negativity and you can actually start doing something about it

4. Read the WORD: I just can’t stress enough the power that is in God’s word in helping to align your mind with things that are true. Every morning during my time with the Lord (Reading the Bible and praying), I ask God to renew my mind. It’s like when you’re needing to see something new on your screen, you just refresh it. Reading the Bible is the most powerful way to refresh and renew your thoughts. If you’re new to the Bible reading thing, I’d suggest starting by reading a Proverbs for each day of the month. I also love Philippians. Yes, the whole book. So good. You can add in a devotional like Jesus Calling or something from the app She Reads Truth. As you start each morning this way, you’ll begin to see a huge difference in your thoughts!

Over the past eight years of our marriage, Matt and I have crazy amounts of ups and downs mostly due to his health. He has an auto immune disease that’s had him hospitalized for over a month already this year. If there’s one thing we have learned during this season of our lives, it’s that while we can’t control what happens to us, we CAN control how we respond. We choose happiness. You can too. Even if it means you need to see a professional to help you navigate thru the depth of your thoughts. Do it. You’re worth it.

A negative mindset is just a thought away. But guess what? So is a positive and happy one. You get to decide!

Happiest of Mondays to you!

All my love,

Laura

It’s Friday!

Hooray!

How fun are these crop pants I found at Target this week. They’re on major sale (under $10) and pair well with this cute black zipper clutch from Old Navy (also on sale. duh)

Ok, so let’s talk about ruts… of the stylistic variety.

Even the most fashionable among us can get a little bored with the same old looks we’ve been looking at.

I feel I’m qualified to speak on such subjects since I myself have been the victim of past ruts. I wore the same shade of lipstick for years. I’ve had the same style sunglasses for like ever. If something works, I work it hard. But occasionally I do get bored and begin to feel the need to try something new.

It usually starts with feeling frustrated while getting ready. It’s like opening the fridge over and over again expecting something delicious to appear. I stand in front of hangers on hangers of clothes that I picked out for myself and still don’t feel enthused about wearing any of it.

“How did I get here?”, I think.

So I decide it’s time to shop.

I go to my favorite store and see the same stuff I just saw hanging in my closet but this time it’s ever so slightly varied and an additional 40% off so I end up buying more of the same old same old.

Or worse.

I go total opposite extreme head first into crazy town USA and end up coming home with bright yellow six inch heels and a pleather jumpsuit. “Sounds comfy for a day of chasing a toddler”, said no mom ever.

Is there a better way?

I think so.

Here are a few things to keep in mind when making the treck out of style Snoozeville…

1. Find your style Spirit Animal: Maybe you’re wondering what a spirit animal is. Honestly I don’t think anyone really knows the exact origins of this term but I typically use it to describe a person that is like a cooler and more epic version of myself. One of the things I love about the instagram community is that there’s a ridiculous amount of inspiration out there. Do a little search and find someone whose style you looooove. Follow them and let them do the work for you. Finding someone that has a similar build is even better because you might could just knock off their entire outfits and even know how sizing works. God bless online shopping.

2. Clean out your closet: I wrote a post a while ago about how to have a successful closet clean out and I really feel like this is the first step in the right direction. Moving away from the very items that are making you feel frumpy will be liberating. Stop looking at clothes you don’t like. I’d rather stare at an empty closet and feel inspired about what could be than see a closet full of buying mistakes.

3. Take a shopping buddy: Chances are you have friends who have good taste in style. If you don’t, you may need to hire a friend. If you can’t hire someone, maybe at the least you have an acqaintance with a great eye for style. Even if you’re not on the “shop with me for hours at the loft” level, maybe you’re at the “keep your phone close by so I can text pics” level. Sometimes you just need a second opinion. And no, the dressing room attendant doesn’t count. You should never ever under any circumstances put that poor person in such an awkward position. Not only do they not know you, but they’re also loyal to the retailer that PAYS THEM. You just expect to can’t gain that level of trust.

4. Try things you think won’t work for you: There’s a difference between things that don’t look good on you and things you think won’t look good on you. The only way to tell the difference is to try. I always assumed that anything high on the waste line looked bad on me. I had never tried it but I wrote it off. My sister made me try on high wasted jeans and I was shocked by how much I loved them. Recognize that the reason you came to this place of feeling stylistically challenged is because you have developed a specific buying pattern. Jump off the crazy cycle and try something different. You never know what you’ll discover.

5. Try different stores: If you think “I’m too old to shop there” you should still try. If you think “I’d never find anything from there” look anyway. Shake things up by seeing what different stores have to offer. I love shopping at places like Dress Up because they get new styles every week. I also love uncovering new online boutiques because they too will get new styles in frequently.

Just the fact that you’re finishing up this post shows that you’re committed to pulling yourself up by your cognac riding boot straps to make things better. So get out there and try new stores, new styles, and get the right inspiration to keep you on the right track.

Hope your weekend is magical!

Happy styling!

Laura